After months of planning, stressing and watching your once healthy bank balance go into some kind of nuclear meltdown (“Swarovski crystal napkin rings and 12 white doves… Really!?!”) you have one last hurdle to get through and that’s your groom’s speech.
In your role as groom though this is nothing to fear as no matter what happens or how much you might dread public speaking as groom your guests are all on your side. Even if you’re not a natural public speaker this is your chance to thank everyone for all the help they have given you both in the lead up to your big day and say a few words about your bride.
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Position – The groom’s speech comes second after your new father-in-law and before the best man.
Timing – It’s your party so you can say as much or as little as you like. However a perfect wedding speech lasts around 7 minutes.
Tradition – As groom you’ll have a number of thank you’s to give, this is when you can present your gifts to your wedding party (bridesmaids, ushers, best man, both mothers, etc).
Thank You’s – You’ll formally thank the bridesmaids, ushers, pageboys, best man and anyone else who might have played a key part in helping with the wedding. Also thank both mothers, they are usually presented with a bouquet of flowers.
Toasts – Traditionally the groom proposes a toast to the bridesmaids.
How to Construct Your Speech
Writing a wedding speech can be a daunting task but by breaking it down into a few key phases it will make it easier to write and help you get through it seamlessly on the day.
- Opening – Start by thanking the bride’s father for his speech and reply to any comments in his speech.
- Thanks You’s – As groom you’ll have a number of thank you’s and gifts to give to the wedding party, bridesmaids, ushers, pageboys, etc on behalf of you and your new bride.
- Parents – As well as thanking your own parents and family for making you the man you are today (and laying all blame at their feet) thank the bride’s parents for welcoming you to their family. It’s also a good idea to assure them that you’ll take good care of their daughter.
- Your Bride/Your Story – This is your chance to tell your new bride just how happy she has made you and also talk of how you met. It is probable that not all the guests know your story and the most asked question at any wedding is often “How did they meet?”
- Case for the Defence – Before your toast it is worth getting a few shots in at your best man by trying to discredit him or plead your case before he goes for the comedy jugular in front of all your nearest and dearest. It is also worth mentioning why he is your best man and what a good friend he is (well, when he doesn’t have a microphone and ready audience that is).
- Toast – Finish your speech with the traditional groom’s toast which is to the bridesmaids.
Jokes – Despite a need to try and head the best man off at the pass and limit any damage about to come your way don’t try and stoop to his level. Whatever barrage he is about to send your way can’t be stopped now. It’s great to get a few gags off at him but leave the risqué stuff for your comedic wingman. On this occasion you are better off playing the straight-man and letting him get the big laughs, you are already the hero of the day (and although you’ve given him the title of “Best Man” you both know that’s really you).
Keep It Light – Your groom’s speech isn’t an Oscars acceptance, no one wants to see you crying into the mic while clutching your new prize by the hand, so while it is nice to say some heartfelt words to your bride and when thanking everyone try to keep things light and upbeat.
Practice – If in doubt practice your speech beforehand. Ask one of your ushers or a close friend to act as a test audience so you can try out parts of your speech you might be unsure of.
There are a few great wedding speeches online that are worth checking out if you’re still in need of a few ideas. However we raise our hat’s to Tom Fletcher from McFly. Whether you’re a fan of the band or not his groom’s speech really was a touch of class and has racked up millions of views on YouTube.